As time moves on...so does the evolution of technology. We are now in the days where people seem to text just as much, if not more, than talk on the phone OR speak in person. Instead of people calling to wish you a Merry Christmas or a Happy Birthday, they text it to you (or send you a Facebook message, but that's another blog, for another day). Instead of calling into radio stations, people are texting for contests. People are even ending relationships through text...awful, I know, but it's happening. Our whole world is turning into a big ball of faceless and voiceless communication.
Now when it comes to relationships, when is it time to stop typing, and start talking? Let's face it, sometimes you just don't want to TALK to someone. It can be easy to use text to just blow someone off, type something rude, inconsiderate, or insensitive. I mean, why not? You don't have to hear or see the other person's reaction. If you did, it could weigh heavily on your conscious, you might actually feel bad or it might prevent you from saying anything at all. It seems the rules for if you don't have anything nice to say don't say anything at all, are a little bit more laxed when it comes to text messages. Oh, and how about the easy out of blaming faulty technology. You just didn't get the text story...you know AT&T's or T-Mobile's bad coverage. (Come on, we've all done it at least once). That's hard to do if someone decides to leave you a voicemail. I suppose you can deny it, but it's a lot less believable.
Things can also get lost in the "vague abyss" of a text. You might assume someone is angry or sad with how you read a particular message...all because you can't hear them or read their body language. A simple contextual "no" can lead you down the dark and dreary road of an argument...that could have possibly been avoided by simply picking up the phone. An "I'm sorry" might not seem as genuine because a person can't hear the remorse in your voice or see it in your face. Sometimes texts can come out of order, or go missing then come later...or not at all (pretty problematic for an argument). With texting, you may be prompted to assume the emotional state of the person on the other end, and we all know how great that can pan out. What a hot butt mess of possibilities, right? Why do we do it to ourselves?
How can anyone see this as an effective way to communicate real and true feelings in a relationship?
So, when it comes to that special someone, I can confidently say I'm leaning more towards a "Death of Text" attitude. Now, I'm not referring to small talk, regular mindless "what are you doing" chatter...I'm talking about during important conversations, special moments and especially, arguments. I think people are getting off easy when they don't actually have to talk AND listen. The question is: what respect could you have for another person if you refuse to actually speak to them like a human being?
If you're not careful, the sad reality is, texting can possibly ruin a promising relationship.
Bottom line: Let's get back to actually TALKING to each other and STOP hiding behind our keypads people.
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