The good ol' fake and bake

Question of the day....What is it with men, correction, some men and the good ol' fake and bake? Why do they go out of their way to pretend to be a person they're not? You know how it goes....a nice dinner and a movie, a casual lunch, lovely promises, long days, and even longer nights...all in an attempt to make you believe that they're nice guys who are really interested in you, who can't get enough of you, who simply just adore you. They pursue and pursue even to the point of flying you all over the place to see them (yes, I am speaking from experience.) Talk to you everyday, act like they are trying to make you a part of their lives, and even go as far as making plans for the future...setting dates and everything. Then when they've got you. When you've finally given in, and decided to believe all of the things they've said...taken in all that they've done, and said, "OK, I'll exhale, I'll let him in," they decided to pull the carpet right from under you. As soon as you let down that last guard, reveal that you're open, they go through the great lengths of channeling the great magician Houdini, and pull a disappearing act. So, there you are, speechless, confused, wondering...what was it all for? You try to pry an answer out of them, and either you're met with silence or something semi-safe like, "It's all moving too fast for me (even though he set the pace)." The dinners, the flight itinerary...I mean, if they just lay their cards out on the table, be honest, admit that they're not that nice of a guy, have relatively large issues with commitment, and aren't really thinking much past getting in your pants, at least it would be on you if you decided to still take a chance. Give us women a little more credit. I think men think we are so fragile, and are afraid we'll just freak out, and find it easier to just fall of the face of the earth (Cowards). When in all actuality, honesty is harsh, but for most women I know, we would prefer that over the rejecting of our phone calls, or messages lost in the dark abyss of nothingness. Nevertheless, men find faking a more plausible approach, and becoming invisible an even better exit. I guess it's that whole thrill of the chase thing, or maybe some of them do get scared (HA). Perhaps we as women just ignore the signs. Like, when he usually calls everyday, and then stops, or you ask him where things are going and he looks at you blankly, pretending to not understand what you're saying, or you say "I love you," and he says thanks. Yes, many men are guilty of the fake and bake, but maybe us women need to acknowledge the fact that they are trying to bamboozle us, and stop hoping for a miracle. I had to learn, and I am still learning, but a big red stop sign means STOP. Bottom line: men, admit you bought it from the store, and ladies, don't accept anything less than homemade, just for you!

~I'm not bitter...just a little damaged