*GASP* ..."Relationship?"

The word "relationship" equivalent to a personal Apocalypse?

I've found, the moment you maybe, even slightly think about maybe, possibly mentioning, or even tentatively thinking about saying the word "relationship" to most men in their 20's...their "mars" radar is immediately alerted, they make ready to wear their most high-tech camouflage gear, pack a backpack filled with food to last a while, and go into covert hiding. It's as if you've said, "5, 0, 5, 0, is around the corner!" to a drug dealer sitting on a stoop who has three outstanding warrants! I mean really, it's pretty ridiculous how scary some men get when they hear this word.

Well, I want to bring something to you guys attention...

NEWSFLASH: most of our entire lives are made up of different kinds of RELATIONSHIPS! Whether it's a friendship, a marriage, a boyfriend/girlfriend committed type of interaction, a business association, or you guys are "just" sleeping together (another blog for another day)...THOSE ARE ALL EXAMPLES OF DIFFERENT TYPES OF RELATIONSHIPS. Let's also just take a quick look at the definition of "relationship"...

1. A connection, association, or involvement.
2. Connection between persons by blood or marriage.
3. An emotional or other connection between people.
4. A sexual involvement; affair.*

Well, there you go. It's just that simple. Just because you make it a point to do your best Jedi impersonation, and never, at any time, or any moment say/mention the word "relationship" ...doesn't mean you've escaped the whole idea in general. Just because you pretend the word "relationship" is part of some foreign language out of some distant land not even on this planet...doesn't mean you're NOT in one. Chances are, you are. Even if you do the opposite and proclaim to the high heavens how much you don't want a "relationship," how relationships don't work for you, how they're too complicated, and blah blah blah. Well, let's just say, if after that proclamation, you're still engaging in any and/or all of the 1-4 previous definitions mentioned with someone....maybe you need to re-evaluate what it is you think...you want...

Bottom line: Don't be deceived by what you think is your own cleverness. No matter how you're handling a situation with the opposite sex, the little ways you avoid using the word "relationship" in an attempt to mask and coddle your own inability to commit...sorry, but it really doesn't matter. Because association, interaction, sexual involvement all make up the definition...gasp...of the word "relationship." So, why fear it? You're already performing the action of the word in almost every aspect of your life. Can we stop using this word as a crutch or excuse to help us avoid whatever it is we're trying to avoid...?

*yep, that's still a form of a relationship, lol. ♥

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